Is your partner not as powerful as you would like?Are all the obligations and decisions have fallen upon you? Find the cause and help him take initiatives.
Why doesn’t he take initiatives?
The lack of taking initiatives in each sector of his life is mainly associated with low self-esteem. The root of the problem has to do with his upbringing. So his parents didn’t give the child the chance to express himself and take decisions or were too critical of the initiatives he took. Therefore he was scared or stopped taking initiatives in order to avoid criticism.
When the roles are reversed
A man who hasn’t learned to take initiatives usually wants a strong woman by his side, as he feels secure, because the roles are complementary and the pattern is familiar for him. On the other hand, a dynamic woman, often wants to «control» the decisions that are taken. In this way the roles are shared and the relationship runs smoothly. Over the years this «model» may tire them. So before it’s too late they can discuss how they can adapt their roles and which responsibilities and obligations can anyone take.
Redistribution of responsibilities
It isn’t easy for anyone to change suddenly the way he thinks and behaves. Especially if he always had the «passive» role in the relationship. At first the woman should consider what she wants and if her partner wants the same thing too. If they agree, they should share their obligations in a descending way and take small steps in order to undertake initiatives. In this new situation the woman should show understanding, shouldn’t be judgmental and should take into account what her partner wants and what he could undertake.
Failure in taking initiatives and low self-esteem usually affect all areas of our lives. When the man has the need to assert his rights, then he sholud express his opinion even if he comes across criticism and negative reactions from those around him. As difficult as it is, he should assess the cost of this conversion. For example, how important it would be if he was more dynamic at his job or how many friends he would have next to him if he finally had the courage of his opinion.
The change should always be done slowly and steadily in all sectors of his life, as long as he wishes.