There are moments in our daily life where we have difficulty in expressing our feelings. Is it easier for us to express our thoughts rather than our feelings, to use logic rather than emotion?
When we are born it is easy for us to express our feelings, for example we can cry if we want to be fed or to attract the attention of others, smile if we’re happy, cry if we are angry. As we grow up we suppress our emotions, for example men are taught that they shouldn’t cry in order to be strong due to social requirements.
Does this attitude make our life easier or harder? What do we fear that it can happen if we express our feelings? What we fear is what other people may think of us, what impression will others form for us. Based on the example above, men won’t cry in order not to be considered weak. We forget that the expression of our emotions is an essential element in our communication with others.
The question is: is strong the one who suppresses his feelings? Of course this is a distortion of reality. The one who expresses his feelings shows consciousness, knowledge of oneself, ability to realise what he feels every time and express it in an appropriate manner.
There is a range of feelings from positive as joy, excitement, love, satisfaction, happiness to negative as sadness, frustration, resentment, anger, anxiety. All these feelings are useful as they help us understand what we experience. It is very important to allow ourselves experience and express those feelings as they boost our mental health provided that positive and negative emotions are in balance. There are some circumstances where the negative emotions outweigh the positive ones such as bereavement, loss where these feelings help us move on in our lives on the condition that we are not stuck to them.
Anyone can realise that emotions are a valuable guide in our lives. Emotions are a priceless treasure that when discovered we get a unique sense of oneself. For this reason, dare to express your feelings as emotional intelligence captures the hearts and minds of more and more people.